Frank Sinatra’s Four Wives — And the One Woman He May Have Truly Loved
For over five decades, Frank Sinatra was more than just a voice. He was an icon, a heartbreaker, a legend—and behind the velvet voice and Rat Pack charm stood four very different women who each shared the name “Mrs. Sinatra.” But as those close to him revealed in his final years, there may have only been one woman who ever truly held his heart.
Nancy Barbato Sinatra: The First and the Forever
Sinatra’s first love was Nancy Barbato, whom he met in 1934 as a brash 19-year-old singing waiter. She was just 17. They married five years later, struggling through poverty while Nancy supported Frank’s early career. She sewed his ties, answered fan mail, and stood behind him—even as he betrayed her.
Frank’s infidelity was notorious. Within a year of marriage, he had already begun cheating, gifting Nancy’s jewelry to mistresses and keeping their photos in his wallet. Yet Nancy never stopped loving him.
“I still loved him, even after all of it,” she told Sinatra’s manager, Tony Oppedisano.
They eventually divorced after his scandalous affair with actress Ava Gardner, but Nancy never remarried. Those close to her said she never stopped waiting.
Ava Gardner: Passion and Destruction
Frank and Ava’s fiery romance burned with unmatched intensity. Their marriage in 1951 was headline-making, but quickly became toxic. Gardner, a Hollywood star, endured Frank’s volatility, jealousy, and emotional spirals.
She had two abortions, citing unstable home life and career pressures, and their constant arguments became the stuff of legend. They were once arrested for firing guns at streetlights and storefronts in the desert. Frank tried to take his own life multiple times during their marriage, once turning on the gas in his apartment, another time mixing sleeping pills with alcohol.
Still, the passion was real—and destructive.
“He loved her,” biographer J. Randy Taraborrelli wrote, “but he believed she didn’t love him back.”
Mia Farrow: The Child Bride
In 1966, Sinatra married Mia Farrow, then just 21 to his 50. Though brief, their union was often ridiculed for the age gap and clashing lifestyles. Sinatra didn’t approve of her acting career, and Farrow admitted she may have been looking for a father figure more than a partner.
Their marriage ended when Farrow took the lead in Rosemary’s Baby, against Sinatra’s wishes. He served her divorce papers on set.
Yet even decades later, Farrow admitted:
“Yes, he was the great love of my life.”
Barbara Marx: The Loyal Last Wife
Sinatra’s final marriage was to Barbara Marx, widow of Zeppo Marx. They met in Las Vegas in 1957, reconnected in the ’70s, and married in 1976. Barbara stayed by his side until his death in 1998. In her memoir Lady Blue Eyes, she confessed it took her a long time to get used to being “Mrs. Sinatra.”
They were together for 22 years, and she brought peace to his later life. But even then, Frank’s heart may have remained partially elsewhere.
The One That Got Away — But Never Left
According to Oppedisano, in Frank’s final years, he often spoke about Nancy, his first wife. They shared holidays, spoke often, and maintained a deep, unbreakable bond. His granddaughter, A.J. Lambert, recalled:
“She’d pull eggplant from the freezer when she got a call—she knew he was coming over.”
Though Sinatra remained loyal to Barbara out of obligation, he quietly considered returning to Nancy.
“Too many people would’ve been hurt,” Oppedisano said. “But part of him never let her go.”
So Who Stole Old Blue Eyes’ Heart?
Ava may have thrilled him. Mia may have comforted him. Barbara may have steadied him. But Nancy, the girl from Jersey who stitched his ties and fed him pasta without sauce, may have been the only one he ever truly loved.
“She never remarried,” Oppedisano said. “She never stopped loving Frank. And I don’t think he ever stopped loving her.”
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